SecondCor521
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Hi all,
I am recently divorced and am interested in forming platonic friendships with women but am not interested in forming romantic relationships with women.
So being the dorky engineer type, I looked up it up on www.m-w.com and found this:
4 a : an appointment to meet at a specified time; especially : a social engagement between two persons that often has a romantic character
To reiterate, I am interested in everything before the word "especially" and in nothing after it.
So, people, here's the question: What makes a date a romantic date as opposed to just meeting a female friend for a social encounter? Are there any bright line definitions? To me there are a bunch of factors, such as:
1. Whether it is called a "date" or not.
2. The marital status of the parties involved.
3. Who pays.
4. The activity/activities.
5. Whether the activity is a group activity or not.
6. Whether or not the parties are attracted to each other.
7. Other?
I would appreciate feedback from women in particular because I want to be respectful of my female friends' feelings. I particularly do not want to mislead them even accidentally. And at the moment I particularly feel like I don't understand your half of the human race very well.
Also, any tips on maintaining relationships as platonic? I am concerned that I might be "playing with fire", so to speak. What say you on the possibility and wisdom of men and women having just friendships without them going further, particularly as it applies to single people?
And just a mild rant from a person in my position: It's hard to accomplish what I am wanting -- women who are single and in my peer group quite quickly look at me as a target husband, women who are married in my peer group quite rightly have husbands who should wonder about me and my intentions. Also, I have not seen much success around me of divorced people who wish to remain divorced maintaining relationships with married couples.
2Cor521
I am recently divorced and am interested in forming platonic friendships with women but am not interested in forming romantic relationships with women.
So being the dorky engineer type, I looked up it up on www.m-w.com and found this:
4 a : an appointment to meet at a specified time; especially : a social engagement between two persons that often has a romantic character
To reiterate, I am interested in everything before the word "especially" and in nothing after it.
So, people, here's the question: What makes a date a romantic date as opposed to just meeting a female friend for a social encounter? Are there any bright line definitions? To me there are a bunch of factors, such as:
1. Whether it is called a "date" or not.
2. The marital status of the parties involved.
3. Who pays.
4. The activity/activities.
5. Whether the activity is a group activity or not.
6. Whether or not the parties are attracted to each other.
7. Other?
I would appreciate feedback from women in particular because I want to be respectful of my female friends' feelings. I particularly do not want to mislead them even accidentally. And at the moment I particularly feel like I don't understand your half of the human race very well.
Also, any tips on maintaining relationships as platonic? I am concerned that I might be "playing with fire", so to speak. What say you on the possibility and wisdom of men and women having just friendships without them going further, particularly as it applies to single people?
And just a mild rant from a person in my position: It's hard to accomplish what I am wanting -- women who are single and in my peer group quite quickly look at me as a target husband, women who are married in my peer group quite rightly have husbands who should wonder about me and my intentions. Also, I have not seen much success around me of divorced people who wish to remain divorced maintaining relationships with married couples.
2Cor521