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Ratface, great solution.
... In just a couple of days we have been able to talk it all out without hurting our family relationship and are making great progress. ...
Ratface, great solution.
I have found many of the posts helpful. I have never lived thru a pandemic so there was a learning curve. With help from posters I was able to drill down to the most basic issues. In retrospect perhaps we should have set down some basic rules and expectations during this Pandemic but it did not occur to us. The pandemic changed home dynamics in very subtle ways until one evening it just all boiled over. I think assessing ones risk has to be a continual process because the virus is also continual and evolving. At times it was difficult to read some of the more poignant post and those sparked more introspection. I am grateful to everyone who supported my daughter's right to express her side of things as well. The pandemic hits every generation in different emotional targets or mindsets and it was important to get that perspective. In just a couple of days we have been able to talk it all out without hurting our family relationship and are making great progress. It is crucial to slow your roll in these situations as many here pointed out. DD may have already found a very nice apartment less than a mile from us at a price she can afford. She filled out the application last night and we are all actually very excited about her moving forward. Thank-You all!
Has anyone else had this conversation with an adult child living at home and have any thoughts on how to best approach it.
This is the issue with close family members. Much of my immediate family live near us. My brothers, their wives, nieces and nephews. Two of my brothers go out to eat inside restaurants and take little precautions. The rest are hit and miss. They meet with friends, have people over to their house without masks and work outside the home. I don't know if they take precautions or not. My young niece in grade school is in class full time. I have to say no to gatherings. If I go to a get together it has to be outside with distancing.THat said, I know he is doing things that we would never have allowed here. He does feel he is being reasonably cautious. But, I know he has visited friends and has gone to restaurants. I don't think he is being reckless, but we wouldn't have allowed those things here. But he is a healthy person in his mid-20s. We are pretty healthy, too, but much older so our risk calculation is different. He understands that.
He is coming up soon to get his cat and move her to where he is. We have already discussed that when he comes, he will wear a max, won't come in the house. If weather permits we can briefly distance and visit on the patio. If not, we will put the garage door up and open the back door of the garage so there is good air circulation and will visit in the garage (distanced, with masks). He has no issue with that.
The thing is -- I understand why he feels safe enough to go to the occasional restaurant or to visit a couple of friends. But, his doing that (plus him working with others at his job) means that he can't be around us except briefly and with precautions.
I never thought I would be telling a man named "ratface" that I admire and commend the mature machinations of him and his family! Well done.
This is the issue with close family members. Much of my immediate family live near us. My brothers, their wives, nieces and nephews. Two of my brothers go out to eat inside restaurants and take little precautions. The rest are hit and miss. They meet with friends, have people over to their house without masks and work outside the home. I don't know if they take precautions or not. My young niece in grade school is in class full time. I have to say no to gatherings. If I go to a get together it has to be outside with distancing.
I had a bit of a cough yesterday. It was brief and went away but the thoughts raged thinking...did I get too close? I immediately start thinking who did I see and talk to in the last week? Where was I? It gets exhausting but this is the new normal.
Do these election infection folks think the virus will suddenly vanish on Nov 4? I fear for them.
Do these election infection folks think the virus will suddenly vanish on Nov 4? I fear for them.
Do these election infection folks think the virus will suddenly vanish on Nov 4? I fear for them.