As even many in our generation have taken to using texting as a primary means of communication (vs phone or email), I am finding there's some etiquette involved.
The latest "biggie" is some people like to talk, and others get irritated if a text thread goes beyond a few simple exchanges. I have a few friends who get very irritated and say "TAKE ME OFF THIS THREAD" which can't be done without starting another thread that I know of.
Easy fix. As Cathy63 pointed out, mute the thread. You no longer get pinged when someone responds but you can always read the texts later. Or, archive the thread.
Some people get irritated if the other party doesn't respond quickly, or at all. I've read the norm is within 90 seconds, or if you're busy within 20 minutes for young folks - I can't meet that one...
I would say 30 minutes would be acceptable. Sometimes you can't answer right away. I would say being unresponsive beyond 30 minutes means you haven't looked at your phone lately or you just don't care to respond.
When receiving a text while driving, if my phone is not connected to Android Auto in my vehicle, my truck has the option of sending out canned responses, like "I can't talk right now, I'm driving." I suppose there are canned responses that can be switched on your text messaging app on your phone if you are busy at work. I think it is proper etiquette to respond one way or another. If you don't, you appear to be clueless. I have a very close friend that seemingly ignores my texts so I basically quit trying. It's kind of sad, really.
Some people get irritated if a thread on one subject goes from one subject to another totally unrelated topic.
Sounds like 90% of the threads on E-R!
Some people expect a simple acknowledge, some people don't. e.g. Meet for lunch? If another party doesn't reply does that mean "no" or they never saw it?
I think if a question is asked in a text a simple acknowledge is
required. Even if it's 30, 60, 90 minutes later. If you text someone a joke or a link to something you know would interest the person, response not needed so much.
Especially with our generation, some people know the text acronyms, some people have to ask every time - what is FWIW?
Easy: "Hey Google (Siri), "What is the text acronym FWIW?"
Some people think if a text is more than a sentence or two, it's TOO LONG.
These people would be wrong. But, sure if it's more than 3 sentences, probably too long.
One thing I've discovered that has made my life a lot easier is having the ability to read/write texts on my computer. It's easy with Google Messages text app. I'm sure there is an equivalent for Apple. You merely have to have your phone and PC on the same WiFi network. Messages show up on your PC monitor and you can type responses using your PC keyboard. This makes it really easy to type and send messages, especially L-O-N-G responses, LOL. Also makes copying and pasting images or links a breeze. And no more digging into your pocket (or purse) and pulling your ball and chain out to see who texted you.
