athena53
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I find this post spot on and an indication of how dating conditions and norms are changing constantly, which makes it harder for people to connect.
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You mention things you like about this guy and things that aren't ideal about this guy. The difference is that at your age and life experience that's the price of poker and you aren't trying to "fix" the things you don't like, or moving on to the find the "perfect" partner.
Thanks for your kind thoughts. Part of what drives my thinking is that my first husband was a "taker"- a financial train wreck who looked to me to pay for his wants after he ran out of money and maxed out his credit cards. Current friend is NOT like that. Right now I need to protect what I've built so I can provide for my LTC, put money away for my grandchildren's education and hopefully leave a legacy. The other aspect is balance. I would be VERY uncomfortable in a relationship with someone who flew me around in his private jet, picked up the tab for meals at Michelin star restaurants and bought me birthday presents from Tiffany's. I don't want to be in a relationship where either person is funding 95% of the costs.