Chuckanut
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In regards to the naysayers....
Never complain. Never explain.
Never complain. Never explain.
....Originally Posted by ERD50 View Post
Why a blank stare? Just tell them what you've been doing.
One answer is "You know the stuff you like to do on a Saturday or Sunday? I do that seven days a week.".
-ERD50
I personally wouldn't want to use the statement you suggested as I think it would come off as bragging but that's just me. ....
I see no harm in agreeing with people who say "you're so lucky," because I am. The implication that I didn't work for it doesn't make me any less retired or less happy about it. And it makes them feel better to think it was all luck.
I see no harm in agreeing with people who say "you're so lucky," because I am. The implication that I didn't work for it doesn't make me any less retired or less happy about it. And it makes them feel better to think it was all luck.
Why do you care what anyone thinks? Why do you have to make excuses? Don't tell them anything. Just do it and live your life as normal. Not much in your relationships with them will change. You may just see them a little more.
Could not agree more.
This business of caring what other people think of early retirement is getting tired.
Just do your thing, don't concern yourself for five seconds about what others will think. Who cares?
Live your life for you and your spouse, not for others.
Just do your own thing and be happy.
I'm sure most of us could point out some component of luck in our ability to FIRE. But in most cases, without also putting in the effort and discipline, that luck wouldn't have done it alone.
-ERD50
True that close friends and family warrant some explanation, but I still wouldn't take a lot of time explaining myself. Most of my real friends and family were as surprised as strangers and co-workers.I would surmise that a lot of people do care (maybe not a large degree) what others (especially those that you value as friends) *do think* and perhaps the OP is one of those. Personally, do I care what someone thinks about what I might say that I may NEVER see again? Not nearly as much as someone who I might want to keep in touch with.
Yeah, tell them the truth. I saved and invested and if you look back on what the market has done in the last 30 years...
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Yes, but in a way that is depriving them of the knowledge that they could do this themselves, without relying on luck ....
Nothing wrong with saying, in all honesty, "It is. Very nice." That takes care of that.It only annoys me when I get the condescending, "It must be *nice*" eyeroll.
Don't you think that's a bit awkward?
Every Acquaintance Everywhere: "Hey, Jim Bob how have you been? What are you doing these days, where are you w*rking?"
Jim Bob: Blank stare.
I fluctuated a bit at first but just say "retired" 99% of the time it comes up. Really it's no one's business.
But they can't help themselves.
"You're too YOUNG to be retired."
"Retirement isn't an age. It's a net worth."
That stops it.
...And in 10-15 years you will look old enough for everyone to assume you are retired.
I certainly did from some (jealous) co-workers and a few strangers. But I couldn't care less what others think, I don't have any need to defend myself. Most people were just plain surprised, didn't know what to think or say.It's strange that some of you are getting negative reactions. I haven't gotten that a single time. I tell people I'm retired. Period. I don't try to explain or justify. Most shrug it off and some act happy for me. If anyone is resentful then it's happening behind my back. The closest thing to a negative I've heard is "you're too young to be retired" but it wasn't said in a mean way.
Are people really getting negative reactions or is this some worry about what might happen?